Direct Dalia - Gossip
About Dalia: Direct Dalia is the fourth of the stories from Powerful You (grades 2-adult).
Dalia encourages advocacy skills and ability to assert self, when necessary (ASCA Behavior - Social Skills Standards 8 & 9). Dalia also fosters Self-confidence in ability to succeed (ASCA Mindset 2).
Greetings Powerful You Educators!
When I started in education 33 years ago, conflict scared me. I went around problems instead of going directly through them. With age I’ve realized that conflict can be a good thing. The angry parent is advocating for their child. The confronting administrator is guiding staff for improvement. The disagreeing partner is simply expressing himself/herself. Words are used to solve problems.
Many people add to words. They create stories around simple facts. They talk to everyone else and make the problem BIG, instead of going straight to the problem and using simple words. Drama grows, gossip spreads, and stories divide people. This toxic noise of instigating stories and talking behind others back is not necessary or useful.
How can you create change in your school by using your powerful words?
How can you empower kids to let their words be honest, kind, and uplifting?
Quotes About Gossip:
“Words are powerful. They can create or they can destroy. So choose your words wisely.”
“Say what you mean and mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.”
“Your words have the power to hurt, to heal, open minds, open hearts, and change the world. Never forget the responsibility you have over the words you speak.”
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection on how they feel about themselves.”
“You never look good trying to make someone else look bad.”
Much Appreciation,
- Julie Frizzi
Direct Dalia Video - Teaches Kids About Gossip
Powerful You Intermediate Instructions
Direct Dalia is the fourth of the stories from Powerful You Intermediate (grades 2-adult).
Dalia encourages advocacy skills and ability to assert self, when necessary (ASCA Behavior - Social Skills Standards 8 & 9). Dalia also fosters Self-confidence in ability to succeed (ASCA Mindset 2). Here is how to incorporate Powerful You in the classroom or home using just 20-25 minutes per week for each of the 26 social skills lessons:
1. Breathe and Stretch before every lesson. Feel the benefits in YOUR body and mind. Kids love the breathing ball.
2. Read the true short story from the 8.5 x 11 Powerful You Educator Cards and watch connection radiate in your class.
3. Stand tall and practice positive self-talk.
4. Open the lines of communication by allowing children turn & talk time with each journaling question from the Powerful You Educator Card. (use transition chime to move through questions quickly)
5. Display the Classroom Social Skills Sign. Leave a classroom footprint of emotional wellness.
6. Use the Powerful You Book for positive quotes and additional activities that correspond to each A-Z lesson. Add your ideas to this resource book. You are more powerful than you know!
7. Purchase The Powerful You Educator Kit . (Includes all resources for grades 3 and up)
8. See more resources below.
Get Your Copy of powerful You Intermediate Today:
Powerful You is a grab and go counseling tool loaded with short and easy-to-use units for group or classroom counseling. Each of the twenty-six lessons share a true story with turn and talk prompts for student reflection. Inspiring quotes, activities, and tips are included in the book for optional lesson extension. Use the laminated Powerful You Role-Play Cards for story telling and acting out the desired behaviors. Classroom signs are included to leave a lesson footprint in visited classrooms.The themed units were created by a school counselor who listened and supported children for over 35 years. These lessons, which follow the ASCA national standards, discuss sensitive school and home issues from a child’s perspective and include:
Problem-solving
Teamwork
Peer pressure
Self-confidence
Friendship
Bullying
Divorce
Grief and more…
Additional Educator Resources To Help Children Learn Direct Communication and Not Gossip
This story will help children see the value in giving a compliment instead of gossiping. Children can practice giving oral compliments by saying the person's name, the behavior they appreciate and how it affected them.
Girls will learn to develop healthy relationships, enhance their communication skills and discover that they can make a positive difference in the world.
