How to Stand Up Against Meanness, Not the Person.
When someone is mean to you, go against the meanness, not the person. Speak to the behavior. Ground yourself firmly in the ground, take a deep breath and say, “I need for you to STOP____(mean behavior)__________.”
How Powerful You Helps Develop Skills to Reduce Bullying and Encourage Confidence
Stand Up Stella from Powerful You tells a story about a time when someone was mean to another classmate. She grounded her feet firmly, lengthened her spine, and spoke against the mean behavior. Often it is hard to stand up for yourself or others because of fear. Practice doing this in front of a mirror or role-play with your classroom . Also remember the word STOP is a two way street. When someone tells you to STOP an “annoying or mean behavior,” you must stop.
Here are 4 “STANDING TALL” steps using the STELLA educator card and classroom skill sign from Powerful You:
1. Say Stop In a kind way, tell the other person to stop.
2. Give a Warning. Say, “If you don’t stop, I’m going to report you to a teacher or adult.”
3. Report If unkind behavior continues, report bullying to a teacher or adult.
4. Continue Reporting If unkind behavior continues, make an appointment with the counselor, principal, assistant principal, or deputy .
How Can You Use Stand Up Stella in the Classroom?
See our classroom example in the video. You too can use Stand Up Stella and the other Powerful You Kids by purchasing the educator cards, the classroom skill signs and/or the Powerful You book.
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For Younger Students, Use Voicing Viv from Powerful You Primary: (grades K to 2)